Yesterday, Kit and I were discussing her need for a new term to describe herself to kinky folks. The thing is, if you describe yourself as a “switch” — especially as a woman — the other person will put you in the role they want you to be in, as opposed to the role you want to be in at the moment.

She suggested several words, such as “pliant” (which has a submissive slant to it); I was browsing the free dictionary, and ran across “adaptable” which was too vague, but which did have the meaning “capable of adapting (of becoming or being made suitable) to a particular situation or use.”

That’s when the silly gene kicked in with “Switchuational” — you switch, but it depends heavily on the situation and person, which was the idea she was going with. A nicer way of saying, “Yes I switch, but not with you.”

Feel free to use this word. I expect to be hearing about it on my mailing lists in 3 months!